RED FLAGS
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Red Flags for people who may be in an abusive relationship

Being physically hurt

Feeling afraid of your girlfriend or boyfriend

Feeling isolated, maybe even alone

Losing your friends

Changing your behavior because of your girlfriend's or boyfriend's jealousy

Feeling embarrassed, put down, ashamed, or guilty

Being threatened

Feeling manipulated or controlled

Being afraid to express your own feelings of anger

A nervous or sick feeling in your stomach when your girlfriend or boyfriend is irritated, frustrated, or angry

A pounding or fluttering in your chest when your girlfriend or boyfriend is not happy.

Not being allowed to, or being afraid to make decisions, for yourself

Noticing that your boyfriend has very traditional (stereotypical) beliefs about women and men

Noticing that your girlfriend's or boyfriend's beliefs about the position of men and women in society is different from your own

Feeling as if your date gets too personal or touches you in an unwanted way

Not having your thoughts or wishes for personal space respected

 

Red flags for people who may be abusing their partner

Physically assaulting your girlfriend or boyfriend (hitting, slapping, pushing, kicking)

Intimidating your girlfriend or boyfriend

Becoming angry if your girlfriend or boyfriend is spending time with other people

Asking your girlfriend or boyfriend to change their behavior because you are jealous

Verbally threatening your girlfriend or boyfriend

Using 'guilt trips' to get your girlfriend or boyfriend to do something

Feeling unable to control your own feelings of anger

Making your girlfriend or boyfriend afraid of you