Red Flags for people who may be in an abusive relationship

• Being physically hurt

• Feeling afraid of your girlfriend or boyfriend

• Feeling isolated, maybe even alone

• Losing your friends

• Changing your behavior because of your girlfriend's or boyfriend's jealousy

• Feeling embarrassed, put down, ashamed, or guilty

• Being threatened

• Feeling manipulated or controlled

• Being afraid to express your own feelings of anger

• A nervous or sick feeling in your stomach when your girlfriend or boyfriend is irritated, frustrated, or angry

• A pounding or fluttering in your chest when your girlfriend or boyfriend is not happy.

• Not being allowed to, or being afraid to make decisions, for yourself

• Noticing that your boyfriend has very traditional (stereotypical) beliefs about women and men

• Noticing that your girlfriend's or boyfriend's beliefs about the position of men and women in society is different from your own

• Feeling as if your date gets too personal or touches you in an unwanted way

• Not having your thoughts or wishes for personal space respected

Red flags for people who may be abusing their partner

• Physically assaulting your girlfriend or boyfriend (hitting, slapping, pushing, kicking)

• Intimidating your girlfriend or boyfriend

• Becoming angry if your girlfriend or boyfriend is spending time with other people

• Asking your girlfriend or boyfriend to change their behavior because you are jealous

• Verbally threatening your girlfriend or boyfriend

• Using 'guilt trips' to get your girlfriend or boyfriend to do something

• Feeling unable to control your own feelings of anger

• Making your girlfriend or boyfriend afraid of you